Some Saturday Thoughts

People are very busy. We wake up in the morning and we have our scheduled tasks to complete, we mindlessly perfom with what must be completed, we go from one thing to another without thinking of anything but what else is on our agenda. We have work, we have our home responsibilities and perhaps we have church or spiritual work, community events and some of us even volunteer on a regular basis.

We clean ourselves, dress, and feed ourselves as quickly as possible. We communicate with our family members in short direct spurts of words. We rarely take time for anything else because there is no time left. There’s no time for each of us to take care of our own personal needs and the needs of our family members whom we love and care about. If asked what your relationship with your own self was like, most people would be dumbfounded and find themselves searching for something to describe what’s not really there.

What makes me begin to think about this today is that football season is here. The big ten starts today and college football is on the television, in your town, or somewhere in your agenda. You will continue to do your work as described above, you will continue to complete the most basic of self care needs and then you’ll make time for football! It’s so exciting! Everyone sits in front of the tube, eats hot dogs, hamburgers, popcorn, barbeque, nachos and then there’s your favorite libation. It’s a glorious time!

There are changes happening outside that we begin to notice when traveling from place to place completing our tight regimine of scheduled tasks. We see the color beginning to appear in the trees and as the leaves fall to the ground we will notice that fall is here and that soon it will be time to carve pumpkins and decorate for Halloween. But when do we ever take the time to see the changes that are taking place within our own selves? When do we take the time to take care of our inner selves and the loved ones around us.  There never seems to be time for us to communicate what we really feel to those we love the most.

People die and there is this huge abyss of emptiness that we feel when we realize that we didn’t tell that person how precious the relationship was between the two of you. Children grow up and we look at them on graduation day and wonder where the time went because we’ve never really told them how proud we are of them and how much we really love them. We have never told them that as a parent we appreciate the tasks that they have accomplished and that we know who they are as individuals.

Husbands and wives change inside and suddenly they look at each other and realize that although they’ve been married for years they don’t really know each other. They get divorced. Close friends move away or suddenly lose everything they have and we never knew they were having troubles. We’re all too busy for communicating the most important things that need to be communicated.

We are all blessed by God with our own selves and our families and friends. We have co-workers that we spend a huge amount of time with and neighbors who watch our backs when we aren’t looking our for ourselves. We are all blessed with members of our communities who use their time to create activities and events that the rest of us enjoy and oftentimes take for granted. It is up to us to make the time no matter what to touch base with our own selves first and then with those who surround us in our daily lives.

We must make the time to talk to our own selves, sit in solitude and reflect on changes that may be taking place within us. If we are bothered by something we must resolve it within our self first and then if it involves someone else, we must communicate this immediately. We can not let things build up within us so that it turns into something full of anxiety and irritation. We must spend some time with the one we have chosen to be our mate, alone, talking, in reflection and solving the small problems before they grow into huge walls that can not be overcome.

We must talk to our children, one on one and tell them what we are feeling. We must exchange our emotions and feelings with them so that they are aware of what emotions and feelings are and they learn what to do with these very important factors in our lives. We must model for our children how we take care of ourselves first. We must model a solid husband/wife relationship. And then our co-workers, neighbors and other relatives must be dealt with whether we think we have time or not. We must make time. There can be another day to trim the lawn or dust the shelves, but there may not be another day of communicating with someone who is important in our life. We just never know when the last time will be.

As for communicating with our spiritual side and God; we must monitor this relationship on a moment by moment basis. How long has it been since you reached out and told the Lord how much you appreciate everything you have? How long has it been since you asked the Lord what you need to do in a complicated situation in your life? How long has it been since you walked alone in nature and had a conversation out loud with the Lord?

These are my Saturday Thoughts and I just felt the need to communicate them with you before I watched any more football!

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